Be clear and direct when you speak to others. Use the “I” word instead of the “you” word. In a conflict, let one person speak at a time. Deal with one issue at a time. Try to understand your own feelings. Matthew 5:37 says to let your "yes" be "yes" and your "no" be "no." This radical honesty, but it is not ruthlesshonesty. Be gentle but clear.
Strong feelings affect the way we communicate and the way we perceive whatothers are feeling. When you are aware of your emotions, say “I feel…” Otherpeople usually understand that you have some very strong emotions right now. Some people have a very hard time asking for help. Is that you? Maybe you feelguilty for asking. Or maybe you believe that others should offer. Asking forhelp can be made worse by a feeling of disappointment that those people whoshould be doing more to help are not pulling their share. But asking for helpis biblical. Some burdens are just too much to take all alone.Ask your friends and family for very specific things. It helps to start withsmall and specific things. For example you might ask for a ride to a doctor’sappointment at a specified time. If they cannot, forgive them and ask again atanother time.
Patients and caregivers alike may be afraid of being honest. The Bible says to speak the truth in love. Speak gently, but learn to be honest. You may have to accept that some people may not be able to hear you at first. Forgive them. Carrying the burden of a grudge is only going to increase your stress level. Give the problem to God.
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